Authentic, Empowered Inspiration


Asha Lightbearer at Clintonville Women's Center

Asha Lightbearer with Vaugh Weister’s Famous Jazz Orchestra of Columbus, OH

Asha Lightbearer is an American singer/songwriter focused on creating positive change in the world through music that will open your heart for transformation and healing. This is not meditation music folks! It’s contemporary singer/songwriter rock/pop with jazz and folk influences.

If you like Paula Cole, Sarah McLachlan, Sara Bareilles, or James Taylor, you will most likely enjoy Asha Lightbearer‘s music as well.

But Asha doesn’t stop there. Rather, she takes it up a notch by combining her music and speaking talents to form two very special platforms, The Fiona Project and her  Love Yourself Free concerts where she shares her personal story of struggle and healing from childhood sexual abuse.

Throughout her life, Asha had struggled with depression, trust issues, abusive and failed relationships and sexual/intimacy problems; until a few years ago, when during a period of intense self-introspection and personal healing, memories of childhood sexual abuse began surfacing.

“Remembering was the single most surreal, shocking and painful experience I’ve ever had. And yet, it explained so much about my life, my choices, and my inner-struggles. Remembering was devastating and also the best thing that could ever have happened to me. I knew I had found a place from which I could finally heal and stop wondering what was wrong with me. I had a real chance of  creating and maintaining the high-level loving relationships I had always wanted.

The rest is history. I have an amazing relationship with a man who is healthy, stable, loving, open, kind and perfectly in sync with me. I am confident, balanced, learning to trust and stepping more into my power every day as I continue to take courage and commit to being vulnerable and authentic (even when it’s uncomfortable). Step by step, day by day, I am creating a life I love. And today, I know I deserve it, which I might not have been able to say three years ago!

This is why sharing my Love Yourself Free concerts is so important to me. Everyone deserves a fair chance at a happy, healthy life with loving relationships and positive self-esteem.

Most people think they can get there, though, by burying the shame and pain of childhood abuse somewhere under a rock far away from their daily lives. But that is not where the healing is; and that is not how they are going to find the freedom, joy and love they want.

As a friend of mine so eloquently put it, “You have to look this thing in the face and kick its ass!”

Survivors are WAY stronger than they realize. And when they stop hiding, they finally have a chance to breathe, cry and love themselves for all of their strength and all of their fragility. They have a chance to grieve, to accept support and to heal.

We survivors are not the offenders here. We are not the ones that should be ashamed. And when the shroud of secrecy is removed, undue feelings of shame can be released, real acceptance and healing can begin and freedom and joy can be found. This is what I want to share with my audiences.”


This is the basis of Asha’s work with The Fiona Project and her powerful and heart-opening Love Yourself Free concerts, where she speaks openly about her life and the effects abuse had on her growing-up and even into her adult life. But most importantly, Asha shares her healing and offers others the opportunity to commit to their own as well.


Whether you are a survivor of child sexual abuse or not, Asha’s story is uplifting and inspirational and will open your heart for more compassion and love in your life toward yourself and toward others.

For upcoming concert dates, see Asha’s events calendar. Or book a private house concert for a more intimate setting.


*FOR SURVIVORS, SPOUSES and OTHER CLOSE RELATIONS:  Resources for child sexual abuse survivors and their partners/spouses are also provided at the end of every Love Yourself Free concert, including suggested reading, healing modalities and trusted practitioners, and local support groups.

11 Facts About Arts in Education from

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1. Students who study art are 4 times more likely to be recognized for academic achievement and 3 times more likely to be awarded for school attendance.

2. Arts and music education programs are mandatory in countries that rank consistently among the highest for math and science test scores, like Japan, Hungary, and the Netherlands.

3. The No Child Left Behind Act clearly mandates The Arts (music, art, foreign language, etc.) as a core academic subject.

4. One study group showed that 3rd, 4th, and 5th grade students who were taught a foreign language every day in school outperformed the students who were not exposed to a foreign language on their Basic Skills Test.

5. While nearly all schools in America are required to offer coursework in languages, the amount of instruction provided for those subjects does not come close to that of math, science, and English courses.

6. Federal funding for the arts and humanities rolls in around $250 million a year, while the National Science Foundation is funded around the $5 billion mark.

7. Researchers find that sustained learning in music and theater correlates strongly with higher achievement in both math and reading.

8. In a study of a high-poverty schools in Chicago, the schools that were participating in the Chicago Arts Partnerships in Education (CAPE) made huge strides in closing the gap between high- and low-income students’ academic achievement.

9. Multiple studies have concluded that curricular and extracurricular art studies and activities help keep high-risk dropout students stay in school.

10. New brain research shows that not only does music improve skills in math and reading, but it promotes creativity, social development, personality adjustment, and self-worth.

11. Research suggests that studying a second language is essential to the learning process, creative inquiry and critical thinking. Foreign language studies have proven to increase problem-solving skills and overall cognitive development.

*This post is taken directly from  Please visit their site for more great information and campaigns to help “make the world suck less”, as they say. 

Want to Be in a Music Video?

We are currently filming a positive rock music video in Atlanta, Georgia, USA, and are accepting applications.



35-45 YR OLD MAN
22-26 YR OLD MAN

Please submit head shot, full body photo, age, height, weight,
ethnicity, hair color, eye color

to apply or request project details. 


The purpose of this video is to raise awareness and funds for programs that provide child sexual abuse prevention education to the public. A public service announcement will also be included containing resource links for information about:

  • how to protect our children from the dangers of sexual predators
  • where to get help for victims

Right now in our society, talk about child sexual abuse is taboo, which protects predators and keeps victims silent, scared and ashamed.

We don’t hear about it. We don’t talk about it. We pretend like it’s not happening. And when survivors finally tell, they are often not believed, dismissed, scrutinized or rejected.  Our discomfort with this terrible offense is so great that we would rather hope reports are false than be willing to face the truth and do something about it.


  • 1 in 4 girls and 1 in 6 boys is sexually abused as a child
  • Only 1 in 10 tell
  • 93% are abused by someone they know, trust and love


  • 70-80% of sexual abuse survivors report excessive drug and alcohol use.
  • 50% of male survivors have suicidal thoughts & more than 20% attempt suicide.
  • Young girls who are sexually abused are more likely to develop eating disorders as adolescents.
  • Over 60% of teen first pregnancies are preceded by experiences of sexual abuse
  • The average age of the offenders is 27
  • Median age of abuse is 9 years old
  • Approximately 40% of sex offenders report having been sexually abused as children.
  • Both men & women who have been sexually abused are more likely to engage in prostitution

*Statistics provided by

It is my goal to raise $1M or more with this video to PROTECT OUR KIDS through programs that provide education and awareness to parents, children, schools, camps and other organizations and professionals who serve our little people.

Not an Actor?  Doesn’t matter.


In less than an hour of time, you can learn the basics of the signs and symptoms of a child being abused, how to recognize an abusers’ grooming techniques as they prepare a child for future violation, what to do if you think a child is being abused, basic prevention information, and how to educate your children about inappropriate interaction and what they should do if it ever happens to them.

THESE INNOCENT CHILDREN HAVE NO VOICE WITHOUT US! We can make a difference if we are willing to acknowledge the prevalence of this social disease and come together to make a change. We are their only line of defense.


  • Join my mailing list so that you can stay abreast of what we’re doing
  • Tell others about this project and keep an eye out for the video’s release on YouTube, Facebook, Twitter and other social sites
  • Connect me with news and other media organization contacts that might be willing to feature our project in their publications and telecasts
  • Share our video when it is released
  • Send me links to reputable organizations for child sexual abuse awareness, prevention, therapy and support
  • Pledge money to our mission  (Complete the form below stating you would like to make a pledge. Once we get our system in place for accepting and channeling donations, we will let you know.)
  • Volunteer to help with video production, marketing, SEO, PR, or researching and contacting Child Sexual Abuse charities and programs for potential partnership opportunities and video placement
  • SPEAK UP if you suspect a child is being abused

Sign me up! I want to help…

Arts Involvement Means Better Pretty-much Everything

NEftA - Arts Involvement Case StudyThis study from the National Endowment for the Arts show that kids with high involvement in arts & music programs, particularly kids with low socioeconomic status, overall have higher reported levels of:

  • Attending 2 and 4-year colleges after high school
  • Gaining college degrees
  • Earning A’s
  • Participating in extra-curricular activities, including sports, yearbook, and honor society
  • Registering and voting in national elections

Across all economic groups, they are more likely to read newspapers, participate in student government, join service clubs, do civic or community volunteering, and participate in political campaigns.

And yet, the Arts are the first area to be cut in our school systems when trying to balance budgets.

Be a voice for these kids. Support enrichment programs, arts education and specifically the arts and music programs at your local schools.

Are they trying to cut arts funding in your area?

Write your school boards and principals telling them that arts education makes a difference in our children’s lives. Send them links to pertinent studies and organizations that show related facts.

The whole world is made up of only “you and I”. Just one person can make a difference. And when you add that to all of the other “one persons” out there standing behind something they believe in, big things can happen!

Be the change! It starts with each of us.


IMPORTANT: Embracing a Radical New Business Model! (Please Read)

Online dating concept. Hand & Wine Glass Through Laptop ScreenAs a business owner, I have often questioned the traditional sales models I have employed over the years. Where do integrity, value and `the going rate’ meet? Should I charge based on my time or my expertise? And what makes an hour of my time more valuable than someone else’s?

With Equal Pay conversations raging through today’s online public forums and discussions, these questions are very pertinent and will very well shape our decisions moving forward as a society.

So how do I decide what my time and expertise is worth? And am I willing to hold my programs and services hostage to high price tags in order to “value” my time appropriately. Personally, I think my programs are invaluable. They will change your life.

Put a price tag on that!

So for me, it all boils down to “Am I a do-gooder or not?” And the answer is, “Yes!”  My whole purpose for being is to do as much good in the world as I can.

Enter the Gift Economy business model. (Ooh! Aahhh!)  Finally an idea that makes sense to me! I can give my programs freely and graciously and choose to work with people who I trust to value my offerings and provide me a fair return (or pay it forward) in accordance with the value (good) that they feel they have received.  Beautiful!

I wanted more freedom to help more people find peace, balance and joy in their work and lives; and this model does just that. How?

First, it opens the door to all people interested in the programs I offer, because affordability is no longer an issue. Whether you have $50, $500 or $5000 to give back or pay forward is not the most important aspect. It’s the intention, generosity and willingness to stretch into the commitment of the program–no matter where you are now.  I want you to sign-up for my programs and feel good about it, so you can fully absorb and apply the materials provided for your highest good. The Gift Economy model does that.

It also takes away the illusion of money being the decision-making factor of whether or not you can participate. There is no longer the convenient excuse, “I’m sorry, but I just can’t afford that right now.” The Gift Economy model forces you to be honest with both me and yourself that you either don’t think you need the service, you don’t believe in it, or you just don’t want to change. And that’s OK! But it’s important that we start learning to be honest about our desires (or lack thereof). That change alone will help to heal our society by bringing a new level of truth and boundary setting into our daily lives.

Embracing a Gift Economy model also eliminates bargaining and price-shopping which is all based on a mindset of lack and is the antithesis of the world I want to be part of creating. I want to foster an atmosphere of “more than enough”, giving, generosity, trust, good will, opportunity, possibility and community.

So, against the “wisdom” of the traditional business model and coaches who say “Raise your prices and know that someone else will help the people who can’t get on board with them”, I say, “No! I am not in the business of trying to ‘get’ something from my clients in exchange for my services.”

Instead, I say, “Yes!” to a model that allows me to give the best of myself for the betterment of others, freely and generously–working with people I trust to value my time, expertise and talents and to treat me fairly and generously in return.

So, from here forward, my services will be gifted to you, and others, in trust that you will commit fully to any program in which you decide to participate and that you will honor this giving model by returning to me (or paying forward) a Gift that you feel is appropriate and proportionate to what you gain. That might take the shape of money, goods, services, referrals, doing good in the world, or maybe some or all of the above.

I am excited to offer this new method of exchange and hope that some of you will accept this Gift and join me in my programs; and perhaps even try the Gift Economy model in your own businesses or projects.

We have the power to change the world. This is part of my contribution. So please take advantage of this offer if any of my programs or products speak to you. After all, a Gift is meaningless if no one receives it.

Spread the word!

And as always, thank you for your support.

 Contact Asha for more information or program registration.

Yes! It can be that EASY!

Smiling make work easierYour software malfunctions and you don’t know how to fix it. Do you suffer through and work around it? Or bite the bullet and call the manufacturer support desk?

Hopefully, neither!

If either “suffering through” or “biting the bullet” and calling the manufacturer seem like viable options, you could be making life more difficult than it needs to be, simply by the way you are thinking.

Many times when I owned my computer repair business, I would go onsite to meet a completely frustrated client who was angry at their technology. However, when I arrived to happily investigate the issue, it was not present.

Coincidence? Maybe. Maybe not.

Sometimes, their issues were simply user-error, but the clients were so upset they couldn’t slow down enough to read the error message(s) that told them how to get what they wanted. Too often, we go through life in the same manner.

When we act from a place of emotional balance, we can be open to all of our options and will often find quick, peaceful solutions. When we don’t, we suffer.

A great example of this is, over the last three days, I spent time trying three different versions of music notation software for my new laptop. None of them were a good fit for different reasons. I felt stuck. I was going to have to buy an expensive program that I really didn’t need because there was no upgrade path for my current product. (To put this in context, I had already dealt with this exact situation several years ago, and was forced to pay money to downgrade my product at that time in order to “get current” for collaboration purposes.)

With those thoughts in mind as I made my decision on what to do next, I could have: 1) given up and paid too much for something I didn’t want, 2) installed my old software which didn’t have the nice feature updates and crashes with newer versions of windows, or 3) called the company, guns blazing, because they keep discontinuing my products and not having current versions available for upgrade.

Instead, I chose to simply put a smile on my face and call to ask what other options were available. Did they have an upgrade path I was unaware of that would meet my needs?

In fact, they did!

I spent 10 minutes on the phone with a wonderful sales rep who was able to answer all of my questions, find my lost account with my old product registrations, and merge that information into my new account–entitling me to a significant discount on the upgrade I needed.  Now, I have all of my product registrations and updated information in one place and a brand new 2014 version of their best product, which I was able to purchase at a terrific price!

Because of my positive attitude, emotional balance, and openness to unseen possibilities, I was able to be greeted by a kind, helpful customer service rep, have a short, pleasant conversation that answered all of my questions, and find a terrific solution to my situation!

You may not always be placed in situations or with people that make you happy or comfortable. But in truth, you’re responsible for your own happiness. By employing a positive, emotionally balanced attitude and outlook, and expecting to be able to find a solution to whatever challenge you are facing, you’ll be much better able to handle whoever you have to deal with and whatever you have to do. Additional options will become available because you can think with a clear and open mind and you will resolve your challenges more quickly and peaceably.

The moral to the story…  Success is in large part based on your ability to stay in equanimity and out of the drama. Try it.

Open your heart. Open your mind. Smile. And go get ’em!


A Better You Is Better for Everyone

Father and Son Playing Together at HomeWhole wellness includes mental, physical, emotional and spiritual1 wellness, with each aspect influencing the rest. When you are not at your best in any area, you cannot be of best service to others.

“Healer, heal thyself,” it is said.

We must commit to taking care of ourselves first. The airline industry advises, “Put your oxygen mask on before assisting others around you”–even your children! You cannot take care of anyone else if you are debilitated.

I try to make this my motto for living, but sometimes I get off track and find myself procrastinating or justifying why “now” just isn’t a good time. For instance, I did not visit my Chiropractor over the holidays and was in pain for over three weeks.

Finally, I got adjusted and I felt better in 10 mins! Now, here I am writing my blog and getting back to work in a happier, more comfortable and productive way.

“Be kind to your body, not just for you, but for everyone around you–your spouse, your kids, your clients! They may not notice when you’re feeling good, but they’ll definitely notice when you’re not.”

So, how can you start being kind to your body today? 

Below is an excerpt from OSHA about proper computer workstation ergonomics. Working smarter can truly make a big difference in your physical well-being, which in turn will help you to maintain optimal emotional and mental well-being too.

OSHA Recommended Computer Workstation Ergonomics

OSHA Recommended Computer Workstation Ergonomics (

*Click here for more information about good working positions, glare and strain, component alignment, etc.

If you work on a computer, take 5 minutes to click the link above and see how your set-up compares. Your wellness is everyone’s gain.


1 Spiritual well-being: “Your view of yourself in relation to all that is.”


Success Basics ~ Getting Started

Star’s Simple Seven to Success from NAPW Inc

Success is not as mysterious as you might believe. It’s not some magic “something” that others have and you don’t. But rather, it’s a mindset and a drive to achieve and become. It’s a practice!

If you’re not achieving what you desire… Do you find yourself making excuses for why you haven’t started yet? Are you busy assessing the “reality” of the market or spending trends before you move forward? Or perhaps, are you researching marketing and promotion strategies and software for getting in front of clients, because you know you will need those resources once you launch?

The reality is “yes”, you will need many tools, resources and skills as you grow your project or business. But RIGHT NOW, all you need is an idea and determination, and to GET STARTED!

Everything else is merely details along the way. All that you need will sort itself out by necessity as you expand, so long as you are committed to your dream and you keep moving forward. So… what if you cross those bridges as you come to them, instead of trying to plan every step in minutia before you even begin? The truth is, by the time you get to the point that you need these future requirements, they will most likely have already changed because technology advances, society advances and you will have grown too and will no longer be coming from the same mindset and reality that you started with.

So, if you really want to be successful in whatever you are doing or creating, let’s focus on the underlying principles that are constant and unchanging and will keep you on path toward your hopes and dreams.

The fundamentals that will make or break you are simple and straight forward. They are easy to understand and easy to implement. And when used as a guideline for continued growth, they will never fail you.

Today’s your day. It doesn’t matter what you want to do or create. START NOW! The only way you can lose is by not trying.
  1. Dream it!
  2. Plan it!
  3. Do it!
  4. Never give up!
  5. Repeat as necessary.

“Turning IDEAS into REALITY”
More fun. More money. More life.

Change your thinking and get results fast!

We’ve all heard it before… change your thinking, change your life.

Well, it’s true and it works. In fact, because I believe so strongly in it and have seen the impact it makes in people’s lives, I have dedicated my time and talents to teaching people the nuts and bolts of how to do this for themselves in order to grow their businesses and create more fulfilling lives.

And I’m not talking about some hocus pocus solution. I’m talking about real, down-to-earth exercises, tools and strategies that are practiced daily to retrain your brain for a naturally more positive and expansive automatic response to situations and stimuli around you.

Through simple tools and techniques you can redirect your focus, see what you want to see, find what you want to find, and come up with new, creative ideas to capitalize on the exciting new opportunities you’re going to think of. Before you know it, you’ll be bringing your ideas to fruition–FAST!

Over the next several weeks, I’ll share some tips, strategies and science for doing just that. Come back weekly to get new information on how to change your thinking for faster results.

Stay tuned!


“I Could Be More” from the upcoming album “Eulogy”

Exiting news! I am currently working on my second album, “Eulogy, and happily cranking out some new music. So as I go, I thought I’d share some of the songs with you so you can see what I’m up to.

Click here to view “I Could Be More” lyrics

As you can hear from this YouTube video, this album is substantially different than my first in that it is not an album of spiritual music, but rather a secular album with spiritual undertones.

What does that mean? The songs are all about every day life, but with lyrics that point to deeper truths and understandings about important stuff that is often overlooked, but has HUGE impact on your life when practiced diligently, like:

  • Letting go with Love
  • Looking at what you have (instead of what you don’t!)
  • Being present in the here and now
  • Knowing that you can’t change someone else

Sounds simple, but it’s not always easy.

In any case, I wanted to share my latest performance of my newest finished song (co-written with Nashville writer, Wil Hodge, I might ad).

It’s actually inspired by my life growing up with my Nana and Gramp on a small family farm in the White Mountains of NH. They were an important part of my younger years and have largely influenced my life. In fact, they paid for my piano lessons all those years ago–a gift that keeps on giving even today.

So, in Eulogy to my grandparents, here’s “I Could Be More”.  Miss you both!

PS. To those of you who would like to help me fund this project, you can pre-order a copy of Eulogy or make a random donation and I will gratefully accept your generosity. In return, I promise to send signed copied of CDs to anyone donating more than $15 and will note in my release announcement donor names who have helped to make this album a reality. (Currently, the estimated ETA on this project is Spring 2014.) As always, thank you for your support.  ~Asha